“Ching Ming" or “Remembrance of Ancestors Day” is an important day in the Chinese calendar. On this weekend prior to the actual Ching Ming day of April 4, you may view hundreds of families visiting the cemetery to sweep/clean their ancestors’ graves and repaint the inscriptions on the headstones to show their respect. However, the activities may varies according to different countries, different dialects and different religion.
As we're Christian, we don't offer food to the dead, nor we worship them. Rather, the visit to the graveyard of the loved one is merely as an act of remembrance. I followed my wife and her family to their ancestors' graveyard yesterday morning. My grandma's tomb is in Sarawak and I went there during last Chinese New Year.
We visited grandma's, grandpa's and also father-in-law's. We did some weeding and washed the tomb. Fresh flowers were offered, and ended with a prayer.
The value of respect and remembrance of our ancestors is important and needed to be inculcated to our younger generation. They ought to be taught from very young age, like the case of our 2-year-old nephew.