It's not the kind of choices that you have to made to decide which one you love, it's otherwise. Pilih kasih is the phrase in Bahasa Malaysia, 'favouritism' in English. It's the kind of situation where you'd decided which one u like and you'll love, protect and even defend even when the person you'd chosen is nothing compare to others. Sound normal? I don't know.
I guess it's quite common in Malaysian culture. This 'choose-love' issue arises when we did the SWOT analysis for our work place. It was listed among our weaknesses. But the top people brushed it aside, trying to cover that no such thing had happened. But then it's the staff's feedback, obviously some (read 'some' obviously it's more then one person) had been victimized. No matter how good you are and how hard working you are, you won't get the praises. But someone who did minimal alteration on other peoples hard work get all the credits.
Why people like to 'choose-love' and in the end failed to appreciate the brilliant works of some parties? Some would say it's 'gatal', so would say it's 'miang', or they have 'something' in between. But I'm clueless. By the way, you might be asking if I'm one of the victim. Well, to certain degree, I felt I was. And I felt I am. For one thing, my gender is not to their taste (luckily), and I don't wear pretty dresses and sweet scent to please them.
I would like to describe further on my situation (and situations of other victims) but doing this will disclose the identity of the person(s).That's not my intention. My colleagues read my blog.
Yes, I have some grudges over this issue, but I'm glad I'm not one of their 'choose-love'. I don't have any hatred towards any party either, for I think it's a norm in Malaysian culture. I'll just have to work much harder. Not to please them but to prove that I'm capable even without their pilih kasih.