Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Like Spring Winded Too Tightly

My work has been piling up for the past couple of months. My expansion of responsibilities seems to be never ending. I used to spend time at the gym after work. But that was already passed. I can't afford to go to gym nowadays. Leaving home at 7am every morning and reaching home at 8pm every evening had left me three hours to spend at home with my wife. Minus the time for shower, clean-up, and preparation for the next day, quality time with wife was narrowed down to about one hour.

I'd been wondering, is this healthy?

My wife will give birth to our first baby in a month. By then, I'll have to allocate time to our prince. I'd failed to be a good husband by not spending enough time with my wife, will i be a good father then?

Should I change my job? If so, it's only to prove that I've got poor time management and that I'm not fit enough to take such small challenge. Should I resign from my post and be an ordinary staff? If so, it's seems to be rather difficult as many would disagree. Hmmm........ I guess seeking God's guidance is the only way for now God had been so gracious to me, allowed me to experience various ups and downs just to strengthen me. I believes that another wave is coming....

Like a spring winded too tightly, if the tension and pressure were not to be remedied, I might break.

"Knock, and the door will be open unto you. Seek, and you'll find." That's God's promise. I shall be strong. :-D

P/s: No I'm not sad nor disheartened. I'm still strong. Don't speculate ya :-D.

40 comments:

Anak Jawa said...

ermmm bznya. patut ler jarang update skrg ni...

AJ gerenti josh tetap blh manage semuanya dgn baik wpun nanti baby dah kuar... :)

budleee said...

you are not superman josh..

just a man, who is a husband and soon to be a father..

can't do everything at once..

*how about moving closer to work.. instead of 45 min to 1 hour drive, it would be 15 min - 30 min..

or jadi mat rempit.. vroom vroom with a 500cc bike..

Cath J said...

Wow.. it has been a long time.. It's normal that now a days husband have to work hard and spent less hour with wife after work.. same here.. that's why Sat and Sunday will be only allocate for family.. no work..

Josh said...

[AJ] Cikgu dah janji nak tolong jadi bidan kan? Josh tunggu.
Thanks for the encouragements. Tapikan, rasa letih setiap hari balik tu susah nak hilang... rasa-rasa cikgu sudi tak bagi urut free, everyday?? :-P

Josh said...

[Bud] Thanks Bud. Yah, I'm not a superman.
I'd even thought about moving closer to my work, but then my wife will be further from here work place. Since we'd got our house in Kajang already, then terpaksa la dok kat situ...
As for rempiting, I wish, but was forbidden by my wife. hahaha..

Josh said...

[CJ] Erm.... did u complain?? :-P
Yah, it seems like this had became a trend. Weekends are for the family, no work. At least your hubby bring you all travelling and holidaying at beautiful places. I can't afford to do the same. Miskin maaa. :-P

arep said...

u r nice man. a good husband. family 1st.. good

Inah said...

gambate uncle josh!! :)..yeap..budlee is right..u're no superman..hope u'll be fine :)

take care josh :)

[danial][ma] said...

hej! josh...indeed, i'm a superman! hahahahaa...whatever we do, it's just like a tide...or can we say a roller-coaster...goin up and down and it's just a matter of time...and you should visit my place and enjoy the big leaf caladium...yeeeehaaaaaa...

The Sometimes Speechless said...

Cause when push comes to shove
You taste what you're made of
You might bend, till you break
Cause its all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you've had enough

You get mad, you get strong
Wipe your hands, shake it off

Then you stand...

Josh said...

[Arep] Thanks for the encouragement Arep. By the way, I'm not that nice, I bite. hahahaha..

[Inah] Of course I'm not a superman, I don't wear my underwear outside ya. hehehehe.. Thanks.

PUTUBAMBU said...

kesiannya Josh..
padanlah jarang update blog..
(tapi facebook boleh pulak sembang ye? hehehe..)

anyway, ni semua cabaran dlm hidup le Josh..

i'm sure you can be a good father.. after several years waiting...
(putu pun tak sabar nak tgk baby josh..hehehe)

just be calm.. try to arrange time wisely... top-up sana sini... adjust lebih kurang.. mesti boleh punya...

JOSH Boleh..!!

Josh said...

[Danial] Yes, I Love to visit your place, soon. But I gotta wait until my son can be left behind first to be looked after by others first. Probably April next year?? :-D By the way, when would your graduation be?

[TSS] Wow, that's a very nice one.. kinda deep too. :-D Thanks for the kind words!

[danial][ma] said...

hej! josh...hahahha..i mean my place in sunway...hehehehe...

kok@un said...

Josh letup tak lepas baca apa yg Danial tulis tu... haha..
Such a funny guy!

Ah Josh, at least Danial is here to cheer you up.

AzA said...

Take it as a challenge!
Pd masa kini majoriti akan hadapi masalah yg sama
Xpe wpun spend 3 jam sehari tapi yg penting masa yg berkualiti
I'm sure you can be a good & fair daddy!

x sabar nak tgu december yek...;)
You can rest from your burden responsibilities for a week! yey!

Josh said...

[Putu] Thanks for your words of encouragement!! That makes a difference. Nanti Josh nak tuntut ilmu sikit camner nak jaga anak. Boleh? hehehehe

[Danial] Ciaaaaak saaaaaaiii!!! hahahahah I was wondering how la kat UK ada caladium yg berdaun besar-besar. Issshhhhhh! hahahahah

Josh said...

[Kok@un] Oh yes, he's funny. :-P

[Puan Azah] Baiklah, saya akan cuba sedaya upaya untuk mencapai kejayaan. Umm.! (Jom kita sama-sama cakap camtu ala-ala kartun jepun).
Aiyoo... December tu bukannya rest, seminggu kena jaga new-born baby, pastu balik kerja dah kena habiskan kerja yang tertunggak seminggu. Aiyooooo... dengan conference tu lagi.... aiyooooo

2L2M.... said...

defintely not healthy....but unfortunately...sad to say that is what most of us going through nowadays.....and happening everywhere...hang-in there.

xanthus1108 said...

Hmm,The higher the position,the more stress u gain from its work..

But,sad 2 heard that "Change the job" within ur solution list.It gonna be a loss to the uni.

Anyway,i think u will be a good father indeed.Really can't wait 2 see ur babe's 4to.I think he will be ur model in future.

Lastly,All the best.Everything will be fine."Cross that bridge when u come to it".Cheer up!

:: NbC :: said...

Josh,
when the time comes (read: got another title - daddy), everything will be just fine. The tight schedule can be adjusted automatically. u'll feel the urge to be home early for the baby. Psssst, keje duniawi ni mmg sampai bila2 pun x abis Josh.

Josh said...

[2L2M] Yah, i know, it's kinda unhealthy yet inevitable. I'm hanging on right now :-P Thanks.

[xanthus] Thanks!
Indeed the pressure increases as the position goes higher. As for the 'change job' issue, it's still just a thought. However, the biggest factor that stop me from 'change job' so far are you guys. I love my job, and I love u guys. That's why I'm still there even though many others have left.

Josh said...

[Pinky] o yeaaah! hahahaha... i hope so. The baby would be my greatest 'lure' for me to go home early. However, the workload would still be there....
i can do it!

xanthus1108 said...

Lolsss...I'm glad 2 hear that we still have such a power 2 stop that decision.
No matter how,U are the one who we respect the most!Not ready yet 2 lose such a valuable lecturer!
Feeling sad too,bcoz i have no chance to be taught by U again!Haha!

Josh said...

[xanthus] hahahaha... yes, you guys got the power!
Psst, u can always go for masters!

budak bengang said...

Well, being an educator myself.. its really not fair, we get to spend most of our time for our students yet we spend less time with our family or even for ourselves.
No matter how we organised our time, sooner or later it will tire us. Changing job for me would be a good alternative, but there are still things to be considered. Hehe...
Oh, by the way, since I haven't read your blog for a long time, CONGRATULATIONS for the upcoming baby prince, get ready for less sleeping time hehehehe~ hugs

Josh said...

[budak bengang] yah, it's kinda difficult to juggle between work and family.
Thanks for the 'scary' reminder that I will be suffering soon. hahahaha

kok@un said...

"Ciaaaaak saaaaaaiii!!!" ???
hahaha....

control macho, control macho... must control macho, man!!

norhuda said...

Congrats Dr Yap so happy to hear that..dah nak jadik daddy dah rupanya...sure dr yap boleh punyer...cayalah..

budak bengang said...

Hey josh... to put it nicely.. suffer yes, but it worth even more :) right~

Josh said...

[Kok@un] That's our common phrase lah. Kan Danial?

[Huda] Tenkiuu tenkiuuu!

[budak bengang] betul-betul-betul! Memang worth.

kok@un said...

new phrase to add:- Kanaaa....Saaaaiii!!!

hahaha.

Anak Jawa said...

** tgh siapkan ramuan2 akar kayu utk menyambut kelahiran baby Ah Josh. hehehehe

azizi said...

hmm,
stress sometimes healthy. but too much will be a recipe of disaster.
but, knowing you, you will manage.
hold on, .....
no matter what.
He knows.

Josh said...

[kok@un] Pangsai!

[AJ] akar-akar kayu untuk si bapak ada?? kih kih kih...

[Azizi] Tenkiuuu hello kitty brother!!! kan, sama-sama lah kita membanteras stress. Boleh gitu? hehehe

SweetyMya said...

dr, i juz wana share a beautiful quote...

"Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars."

may God bless u n ur family :)

ps: it is a big lost fer us if u r not here in uni -_-

pss: stay strong! ^_^

-mya-
(student)

azizi said...

boleh josh.
jom lepak2 kt coffee shop dekat dengan sungai kt sini. menarik. :-)

Josh said...

[Mya] Thanks for the encouragement Mya. :-D

[Azizi] Aiyoo... ni lagi tensi.. sebab kena pikir camner nak dapatkan duit yang berjuta-juta untuk beli flight ticket ke situ.... aiyoooo tensi tensi...
Why don't u balik kampung, and we have coffee here. Menarik oooooo... :-P

nmi said...

Josh, this posting of yours made me 'realize' that i am far from a superb wife, mother and daughter.. huhuhu.. do i need a change in job also..

Josh said...

[nmi] Hi Pn. Aisyah. I'm glad my entry makes u think so. We should be constantly reminded that family comes first.
But as for changing of job. DON'T. You're done great changes and the younger generation had benefitted. I believe that you can bring the HEP to greater height.